By Jackie M.
Here is a healthy reminder, on one thought we should have in order to be better communicators. The reminder is that words carry weight behind them. The words we speak can impact another person much deeper and have more of a lasting impact then anything physical you can do to them. Does this cross our minds when we are responding to conflict in our marriages? And why are these spoken words so powerful?
This quote speaks volumes, in the picture above. When we realize how much power actually lies behind our words maybe we should be more slow to speak, and quick to listen. Applying this thought to my marriage challenges me daily. I want to say what I want to say, especially in moments of debate, but it’s not always the best idea to do that.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to act like a fool! As stated in Proverbs 18, “a fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his (or her) opinion.” As women, we have opinions and love for our voices to be heard, but most of the time your opinion does not have to be said out loud. If there is a conflict in your marriage, and you are worried about fueling another argument, maybe go to a separate place and pray before you respond to your husband, or just give it all to God and keep silent. We don’t have to say every little thing that comes to mind in a conversation. Use discretion and learn how to communicate well by practicing patience with yourself and your spouse. That’s what I’m on this next few months is learning to be a better listener first.
There is power in the tongue and we should guard every word that comes from our lips. Don’t follow the poor example of many reality show “housewives” and loud, overly expressive women we tend to view on TV and movies, but instead go against the grain and seek a life more like Jesus Christ. Seek to pursue a lifestyle towards biblical womanhood and practice kindness, meekness, and patience. Proclaim this today, that I want to be a renewed woman of faith this year and I encourage you to want the same.
Instead let us challenge ourselves to these three friendly tips:
- I want to be a wife that takes time to hear what my husband has to say. So I will cut out all distractions, when we are talking, including texting on my smartphone. (Ouch!) Put down the phone when your chatting with hubby.
- I want to demonstrate a patience and level of understanding that says that I value the communication in our relationship. By taking time with him when I could choose to spend that extra time on myself. Practice selfless love.
- I want to show that I do not always have to get the last word. So I will guard my tongue when I am feeling very opinionated. Be slow to speak, quick to listen.
Do you agree that communication is very important in our marriages? If so, how do you practice being a good communicator ? And what types of struggles do we all share as wives in this area of communication? Feel free to comment below and thanks for reading! CW