By Jackie M.
Featured image: Sparrow Vida Photography
Hey ladies! I know its kinda late, but I got to get my weekly devotional up! So, I’m thinking to make this a regular thing every Monday on my blog. If it isn’t up by that morning then expect it in the evening.
Alright, today my attention is drawn to a sometimes touchy subject for women and wives but a very special one at that. I call this devotional, “Embracing the Helper Role.” I was inspired by a book entitled Fierce Women written by Kimberly Wagner regarding many factors into the woman’s God-given calling to be a helper. Specifically, in Chapter 3, Wagner shares a really good point about, what she calls, the flipside of the woman embracing her helper role:
“The flipside of the woman’s calling to be a helper is the curse of…controlling. We want to control our husbands. The good stuff God put in us, which makes us a beautifully fierce woman and an effective helper, gets perverted and twisted into this dangerous tool of domination that we use to whip the man into shape.” -Kimberly Wagner, Fierce Women
Wow! In today’s society, the term helper automatically gets snubbed, and cursed because it is viewed as a sign of weakness, dependency, and lacking confidence, too name a few. Women in today’s world, are discouraged from thinking that helping men is something to be applauded or embraced. Instead, women are encouraged to compete with men, to participate in male-bashing (hello! #WasteHisTime2016 SMH went crazy viral on Twitter), to replace men’s roles, to live independently of men, and dare I say it.. to not be submissive to the man.What happened to God’s intentions for the man and woman in a relationship? God intended for both the man and woman to complement one another. But more specifically God’s Word spells out the special expectation of living out our roles as men and women:
“ It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him. “ Genesis 2:18 ESV
“For man was not made from woman, but woman for man. Neither was man created for woman but woman for man.” 1 Corinthians 11:7 ESV
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives submit in everything to their husbands. Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle of any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. “ Ephesians 5: 22-27 ESV
Sorry…not sorry! When I look at this beautiful text, I think of it as an honor and privilege to be able to help and serve Christ in this way. This does not mean that men should not also help women. Instead God, gives the man complementary roles to the women. The man’s role is listed in the form of sacrifice, leadership, teachers of God’s Word, providers of the home, food for their families, clothes, loving your family… The list goes on. (see more in Ephesians 5:22-33 ESV).
For God to say that my husband should strive to present me without blemish, that I might be holy, in this quest towards sanctification? If that doesn’t motivate us to help our husbands out even more, in return to be sanctified and cleansed? Then I don’t know what else women should want?
My husband is appreciated by me and he also appreciates me. If God intended for man to be alone, then we would not need woman on this Earth. God said that he made the woman to be a helper for the man. To help him be the best he can be! To help him be a leader! To help him day by day in the grind of life, to help him be able to help you, lets be real!
I am no punk for embracing my role as a helper to my hubby, Why?… Because I love the Lord more than my selfish desires, and I will live by His Word to the best of my ability. I am a servant for Christ first. And the best way I can represent that, here in the flesh, on this Earth, is to love my husband, and to help him out.
Why is it so disgraceful to be of help to another human being? The result of denying this part of our character, is becoming controlling, is turning on our men, and treating them like they are worthless, and they are not good enough to receive our help. Instead we become resentful, disrespectful, ugly, and dominating monsters. WE HAVE TO DENY THE FLESH! Turning into a Power Monger, and a Male-Basher, is in NO WAY, representative of God’s design for us as women. Fight the wave of feminism and embrace the beauty in living for Christ. I can honestly say, there is nothing more character building, and fulfilling then doing what I was naturally made to do. Not because I am weak, but because I am strong in Christ. Love My HUBS!
I hope this encouraged someone tonight. Stay beautiful. CW